Love. Almost as important as food, isn’t it?
The search for the right person is a worthwhile, sometimes excruciating, endeavor. Allow me to make things a bit easier, by giving you some information to help you discern if you have the right person by your side, or, in case you’re single and want a partner, what to look for in one.
- You have the same goals in life
If you’re thinking of sharing a future with this person, your life goals should be similar, so you can walk together on the road of excitement and love, going forward into what I like to call “The Wrinkle Years”.
Person 1: “I wanna adopt every Sugar Glider and keep them in my future house.”
Person 2: “That has been my dream for 30 years.”
Person 1: “But… aren’t you 30 years old?”
Person 2: “Exactly.”
- Your worldview is similar
If your views of the world are opposite, you might spend your time fighting instead of making what most of us want to make: delicious food. Or whatever you want to make together that’s pleasant.
Person 1: “I wish things were like in that movie…. The Shining. You know what I mean?”
Person 2: “Totally. I love Hotels.”
CRAZY COOL PAIR OF PEOPLE!
- You accept and sometimes like each other’s flaws
It’s inevitable, no one is perfect, we are made of flaws put together like a bunch of Flawkenstein’s Monsters, but usually less misunderstood by our parents and the human race in general. In a healthy relationship, your flaws are something the other can tolerate, or issues you can work on.
Person 1: “I think ice cream is just… ok.”
Person 2: “Ok. I hate olives.”
Person 1: “I can live with that.”
A COUPLE THAT CAN STAY TOGETHER!
- You can communicate anything
Do you have an embarrassing secret you’ve only confessed to your therapist and even they laughed, unable to keep it professional? The right person will make you feel comfortable enough to tell them that secret, for free. You will be afraid at first, but it will be fine… after they laugh too. They’re the right person, but they’re still human!
Person 1: “You know Shauna?”
Person 2: “Yeah.”
Person 1: “She wears a wig.”
Person 2: “Really?”
Person 1: “My biggest fear…”
Person 2: “Yeah?”
Person 1: “What if her wig falls off when I’m around…?”
Person 2: “What?”
Person 1: “Yeah! Because… what would I say?”
Person 2: “Easy! Pretend you’re blind till she puts it back on.”
- You enjoy doing similar activities
This is vital, unless you want to be bored for the rest of your life and find happiness when this boring person isn’t around you.
Person 1: “Wanna go give breadcrumbs to the neighbor’s lizard pet?”
Person 2: “Sure! But I think he likes tiny worms better.”
Person 1: “Ah, ok. Let me get some.”
- You make each other laugh
A relationship without laughter is like a turtle watching a toddler run, you will feel like something is missing and the relationship won’t get anywhere, cause turtles always get bored of being so slow, so they never get to their destination. Turtles are quitters, but you’re not. Your relationship should have lots of mutual laughter.
Person 1: “Did you see that turtle quit?”
Person 2: “Hahaha. It didn’t even try!”
RIGHT? WHAT A GOOD COUPLE.
- You take care of each other during sickness
We can’t help getting sick, because, sadly, we’re not made of Terminator material. It’s just not how the Universe decided to make us. So, when sickness arrives, the right person will want to help you get better. Sometimes, they’re not good at it, but they will want to help, and that matters.
Person 1: “Still puking, huh?”
Person 2: “Yeah.”
Person 1: “I made you more green soup.”
There’s no relationship without it, but trust is about both you and them. In the end, to have the right partner, you have to be ready to be the right partner too. Now, go to the mirror and blow some kisses at yourself, give yourself some love for being cool and worthy of someone who loves you as much as you love yourself.
Person 1: “Let’s do the trust exercise.”
Person 2: “Ok. Let yourself go, my beauty.”
Person 1: “ARE WE FLYING?”
Person 2: “We are.”
LEVEL 11 COUPLE.