Valentine’s Day is coming and love is forced to be in the air. Can you feel it?
On a day like that, we put our rose-tinted glasses and rejoice in our appreciation for love, but the problem is that we simplify something that’s vast and intricate, and thus forget to celebrate a side of relationships that isn’t as fun, although it is equally valuable, because it’s the side that makes us grow as individuals.
Dark Side of Relationships.
Cue the guitar solo.
Part one: Communication
In a relationship, sometimes, your partner will say something that will hurt you. The following is an example of what happened in mine:
After hearing this, I wondered if our relationship could make it, but he noticed my despair and tried to fix it:
Which is key. Relationships are about constant interaction, they force you to work through your issues by communicating, helping you both become more open and honest with yourselves and each other, and allowing you to understand how to express your feelings or thoughts more accurately.
I know what you’re wondering, “Did their relationship survive that?” Yes, we managed to survive this bump.
Part two: Boundaries
Other times, you will realize your partner has some personality traits you don’t appreciate. For example, I have a fear of germs, which weighs on him.
Of course, that’s not completely accurate. We don’t own a dog. But what can I say? He’s a champ.
Through this example, we can see how a relationship makes us confront our boundaries, while at the same time giving us the opportunity to put ourselves in another person’s shoes. In this case, he tolerates my flaw and he washes his hands, not because he’s afraid of the hose, but because he’s making the effort to understand me.
Part three: Happiness
There will be moments when you will feel like your partner is not contributing to your happiness.
Why would he tell me to eat vegetables? Does he not know me? I let this pass, you should too, because nobody is perfect and your happiness is your own, it shouldn’t depend on what anyone else does or say, or whether or not vegetables are involved.
Also, he’s right, I should eat broccoli.
Part four: Fears
A relationship can even test your deepest fears. One moment, you’re quietly reading something on your laptop:
The next, you’re terrified, because your partner walks really quietly around the house and suddenly appears next to you.
By confronting your fears together, you will become stronger individuals and, therefore, a stronger couple.
There are many more examples, but I hope these have helped you see relationships with added depth, and answer this question:
Are you ready for love?